Should Parents Tell their Kids that Santa is Real?
Hi, my name is Roland Trujillo and I have a twinkle in my eye.
I love Santa Claus. I also love anyone, real or make believe, who has love and understanding, who loves children, who cares about children, and who protects children. Here is what I think.
Should parents tell their kids about Santa?
At our house, when my son was little, we did not do the Santa thing. We celebrated Christmas with a small Christmas tree with ornaments, we exchanged presents, had Christmas stockings, listened to Christmas music, and had Christmas dinner.
We definitely talked about Santa, and my son became familiar with who Santa is and what he does. We read Twas the Night Before Christmas and listened to Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer.
When I myself was a boy - my mom did do the Santa thing. When I was very small, I remember putting out a plate with cookies and a glass of milk for Santa, so he could enjoy them when he stopped by our house.
In the morning when I awoke, I dashed to the living room to see if Santa had come. One Christmas there was a brand new shiny bicycle near the tree. Santa had brought it, and he also filled the stockings.
At the same time, there were many other gifts and each was from someone in the family. Before Christmas I went shopping with mom to get her something, and then there were gifts from grandma and so on. So it was like a hybrid thing. There was Santa who brought things, and we also gave each other gifts. It was like the best of both worlds!
Somehow is I grew, I began to suspect that mom was actually Santa, and then I knew that it was mom who was getting me things and putting them under the tree. You know how it is with kids: one day they are living in their magical wonderful world of make believe, and then they are more interested in their friends, and then they are all grown up.
So here is what I think. Parents can go either way. Do what you feel comfortable with and enjoy. Whatever you do, Santa or no Santa, if you do it with a good spirit, you will be fine.
I am a pastor (nondenominational) for people on the web. I don't have a big church, just a computer and some books. Some Christians have a problem with Santa. I don't.
I am not a prude. I can enjoy the niceties of Christmas without forgetting the reason for the season. I love Christmas and all the trappings and I always will.
Perhaps this will help explain my position. I have a stuffed animal at home and his name is Mr. Brown Bear. He is a very nice. He is kind and thoughtful. He loves looking out the window at the flowers. He is also working on his Ph.D in History.
Mr. Brown Bear is excited that my son is studying at a university because Mr. Brown Bear says he can work on his doctoral thesis more easily with all the research facilities and library near the school.
Is Mr. Brown Bear a real bear? No. But do I love and respect Mr. Brown Bear? Absolutely.
Should my son sit down with me one day and say "Dad, it's all a lie. Mr. Brown Bear is just a stuffed animal." No, because I love what Mr. Brown Bear stands for.
Part of me is innocent and I love what is innocent and I also love to be playful. Ultimately it is what is innocent and good that I love, and so I honor and cherish good wherever I see it: in a child's eyes, in a good man or a good woman, in the Lone Ranger, in Mr. Brown Bear, or in Santa Claus.
If you don't want to do Santa, I have no problem with your decision. Remember, when my son was little, we did not do Santa either.
Whatever you do, just keep it light hearted. Remember that children live in a magical world. Honor their innocence. Be patient with them. Be patient with yourself. Merry Christmas, love and kisses!
. . . . . . .
. Santa and M
rs. Claus are master mentors when it comes to parenting. Want a good read? Would you like to follow Santa and Mrs. Claus as they deal with parenting issues with love and wisdom?
Can't wait? - preview free now at Barnes and Noble
It's better than attending a class and you don't even have to leave home or use any gas.
I will be happy if Santa helps improve your relationship with your child.
Incidentally, just as parenting is a year round job, so is learning and developing your parenting skills! Don't wait until the holidays.
"Dr. Roland Trujillo PhD and Senior Pastor has written the book (now at Amazon.com) on alternatives to spanking. It is called Santa's Take on Parenting: Secrets from the North Pole. It will actually mentor you in learning how to apply patience and wisdom in working with your kids. It is also one of the sweetest books ever written and is right up there with Miracle on 34th Street as an all time reminder of what love is all about. "
"Little kids don't need discipline, they need direction and redirection. They need watching with love, kindness, and patience. Older kids need the loving presence of an involved aware parent. They need mentoring, coaching, and a parent who sets a good example. I'm going to tell you the truth. Time outs or spanking are poor substitutes for patience and wisdom.
.
I know that if I can convince you that patience works, both you and your child will be much happier.
What others are saying about Santa's Take
"Every parent should read this book."
--Suzy, real estate broker, San Francisco, CA
"Your book is great and should go over well."
Dee, principal, Anderson, CA
“Santa's Take on Parenting" is a real find. I was looking for a book that makes the case for positive and creative parenting without spanking or excessive reliance on punishment.
I plan to provide a copy to my moms and dads who are just getting started or soon to be parents. I also wish to make it "required reading" for parents who need some coaching in positive parenting. Santa's Take will make learning about parenting fun and easier for lots of busy parents.— Mary, parent educator, Emeryville, CA.
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“Whimsical" After I read Santa's Take on Parenting, I gave a copy to my adoptive and foster parent agency to have in their lending library. — Alicia, mother of three, Northern California
Your kids will listen when you say "Santa says."
..Ideal for parents, grandparents, foster parents and anyone who loves kids..
Order the beautiful quality paperback edition at Amazon.com as a gift for someone you love
.
10% of every dollar is donated directly to needy shelters for people (and pets too)!
.
and now available for Kindle too!
.
A Word to Parents, Foster Parents and Grandparents
The Issue:
You like giving books as gifts, but you want to give a book that is fun and useful. You need a book for a dad, a mom, a teenage mom, a friend, or someone who just works with kids.
The Solution:
Santa's Take on Parenting reads like a novel, is good for both moms and dads, has dozens of parenting tips, and is fun to read.
The Issue:
You know someone who could use some fresh ideas for dealing with their kids. But you don't want to be intrusive or raise resistance.The Solution:
Santa's Take on Parenting is a fun read and it has lots of creative positive ideas without being heavy handed. It can be read as a good story or as a parenting book.
No Particular Issue, you're just interested in parenting and want to read a good book.
The Solution: Santa's Take on Parenting
.
Use this special link, and 20% of every dollar will be donated directly to needy shelters for people (and pets too!)
.
I love Santa Claus. I also love anyone, real or make believe, who has love and understanding, who loves children, who cares about children, and who protects children. Here is what I think.
Should parents tell their kids about Santa?
At our house, when my son was little, we did not do the Santa thing. We celebrated Christmas with a small Christmas tree with ornaments, we exchanged presents, had Christmas stockings, listened to Christmas music, and had Christmas dinner.
We definitely talked about Santa, and my son became familiar with who Santa is and what he does. We read Twas the Night Before Christmas and listened to Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer.
When I myself was a boy - my mom did do the Santa thing. When I was very small, I remember putting out a plate with cookies and a glass of milk for Santa, so he could enjoy them when he stopped by our house.
In the morning when I awoke, I dashed to the living room to see if Santa had come. One Christmas there was a brand new shiny bicycle near the tree. Santa had brought it, and he also filled the stockings.
At the same time, there were many other gifts and each was from someone in the family. Before Christmas I went shopping with mom to get her something, and then there were gifts from grandma and so on. So it was like a hybrid thing. There was Santa who brought things, and we also gave each other gifts. It was like the best of both worlds!
Somehow is I grew, I began to suspect that mom was actually Santa, and then I knew that it was mom who was getting me things and putting them under the tree. You know how it is with kids: one day they are living in their magical wonderful world of make believe, and then they are more interested in their friends, and then they are all grown up.
So here is what I think. Parents can go either way. Do what you feel comfortable with and enjoy. Whatever you do, Santa or no Santa, if you do it with a good spirit, you will be fine.
I am a pastor (nondenominational) for people on the web. I don't have a big church, just a computer and some books. Some Christians have a problem with Santa. I don't.
I am not a prude. I can enjoy the niceties of Christmas without forgetting the reason for the season. I love Christmas and all the trappings and I always will.
Perhaps this will help explain my position. I have a stuffed animal at home and his name is Mr. Brown Bear. He is a very nice. He is kind and thoughtful. He loves looking out the window at the flowers. He is also working on his Ph.D in History.
Mr. Brown Bear is excited that my son is studying at a university because Mr. Brown Bear says he can work on his doctoral thesis more easily with all the research facilities and library near the school.
Is Mr. Brown Bear a real bear? No. But do I love and respect Mr. Brown Bear? Absolutely.
Should my son sit down with me one day and say "Dad, it's all a lie. Mr. Brown Bear is just a stuffed animal." No, because I love what Mr. Brown Bear stands for.
Part of me is innocent and I love what is innocent and I also love to be playful. Ultimately it is what is innocent and good that I love, and so I honor and cherish good wherever I see it: in a child's eyes, in a good man or a good woman, in the Lone Ranger, in Mr. Brown Bear, or in Santa Claus.
If you don't want to do Santa, I have no problem with your decision. Remember, when my son was little, we did not do Santa either.
Whatever you do, just keep it light hearted. Remember that children live in a magical world. Honor their innocence. Be patient with them. Be patient with yourself. Merry Christmas, love and kisses!
. . . . . . .
. Santa and M
rs. Claus are master mentors when it comes to parenting. Want a good read? Would you like to follow Santa and Mrs. Claus as they deal with parenting issues with love and wisdom? Can't wait? - preview free now at Barnes and Noble
It's better than attending a class and you don't even have to leave home or use any gas.
I know what you are going to say, because I have heard it before.
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I even heard it from a nice lady who was a receptionist at an office I used to visit. I told her that I was writing a book about parenting.
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"What are you writing about right now?" she asked.
I said: "Right now I'm writing about how awful it is to force a child to stay in her room just because she was a little slow in cleaning her room. "
She said: "That's what I do with my daughter. I make her stay in her room."
I shook my head. This nice lady has thick glasses on, and I could see a picture behind her desk of a little angelic looking girl with thick glasses on (I'm guessing this was her daughter).
I said, "Why don't you try patience?"
Do you know what she said?
She said, "I tried patience and it doesn't work!"
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I assured her that patience does work.
You see--she, like so many other parents, doesn't think that patience will work.
It's because she never gave it a chance. No wonder she says it doesn't work.
It's because she never gave it a chance. No wonder she says it doesn't work.
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You see, patience never fails.
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Well, here's something I know for sure. Patience=love.
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So now I am going to prove to you that patience does work.
.
I know that if I can convince you that patience works, both you and your child will be much happier.
.
All you have to do is preview the first 40 or 50 pages free and you will have discovered several strategies that are based in patience and that really work.
.
Written in the tradition of LePetit Prince and Jonathan Livingston Seagull, this magical little book is the best kept secret in parenting literature. It can be read as a heart warming story; but like Le Petit Prince, it also is filled with profound insights and meaning.
Santa's Take on Parenting can be read over and over. It has the amazing quality of sparking new insight each time it is read. It makes a great gift.
But don't take my word for it. Read it for yourself.Shadow Santa and Mrs. Claus as they demonstrate their skills in gently but firmly guiding two kids with issues who are visiting with them.
Written in the tradition of LePetit Prince and Jonathan Livingston Seagull, this magical little book is the best kept secret in parenting literature. It can be read as a heart warming story; but like Le Petit Prince, it also is filled with profound insights and meaning. Santa's Take on Parenting can be read over and over. It has the amazing quality of sparking new insight each time it is read. It makes a great gift.But don't take my word for it. Read it for yourself.Shadow Santa and Mrs. Claus as they demonstrate their skills in gently but firmly guiding two kids with issues who are visiting with them.
- Find out the secrets to their success.
- Discover what Santa's skills are and why they work.
- Let Santa and Mrs. Claus be your mentors!
Incidentally, just as parenting is a year round job, so is learning and developing your parenting skills! Don't wait until the holidays."Dr. Roland Trujillo PhD and Senior Pastor has written the book (now at Amazon.com) on alternatives to spanking. It is called Santa's Take on Parenting: Secrets from the North Pole. It will actually mentor you in learning how to apply patience and wisdom in working with your kids. It is also one of the sweetest books ever written and is right up there with Miracle on 34th Street as an all time reminder of what love is all about. "
"Little kids don't need discipline, they need direction and redirection. They need watching with love, kindness, and patience. Older kids need the loving presence of an involved aware parent. They need mentoring, coaching, and a parent who sets a good example. I'm going to tell you the truth. Time outs or spanking are poor substitutes for patience and wisdom.
.
Written in the tradition of Le Petit Prince and Jonathan Livingston Seagull, this beautiful little book can be read as a heart warming story; but like Le Petit Prince, it also is filled with profound insights and meaning. Santa's Take on Parenting can be read over and over, and it makes a great gift.
Written in the tradition of Le Petit Prince and Jonathan Livingston Seagull, this beautiful little book can be read as a heart warming story; but like Le Petit Prince, it also is filled with profound insights and meaning. Santa's Take on Parenting can be read over and over, and it makes a great gift. - Shadow Santa and Mrs. Claus as they demonstrate their skills in gently but firmly guiding two kids who are visiting with them.
- Find out the secrets to their success.
- Discover what Santa's skills are and why they work.
- Let Santa and Mrs. Claus be your mentors!
Incidentally, just as parenting is a year round job, so is learning and developing your parenting skills! Don't wait until the holidays.
.
All you have to do is preview the first 40 or 50 pages free and you will have discovered several strategies that are based in patience and that really work.
.
I will be happy if Santa helps improve your relationship with your child.
"Every parent should read this book."
--Suzy, real estate broker, San Francisco, CA
"Your book is great and should go over well."
Dee, principal, Anderson, CA
“Santa's Take on Parenting" is a real find. I was looking for a book that makes the case for positive and creative parenting without spanking or excessive reliance on punishment.
I plan to provide a copy to my moms and dads who are just getting started or soon to be parents. I also wish to make it "required reading" for parents who need some coaching in positive parenting. Santa's Take will make learning about parenting fun and easier for lots of busy parents.— Mary, parent educator, Emeryville, CA.
.
“Whimsical" After I read Santa's Take on Parenting, I gave a copy to my adoptive and foster parent agency to have in their lending library. — Alicia, mother of three, Northern California
Your kids will listen when you say "Santa says."
..Ideal for parents, grandparents, foster parents and anyone who loves kids..
Order the beautiful quality paperback edition at Amazon.com as a gift for someone you love
.
10% of every dollar is donated directly to needy shelters for people (and pets too)!
.
and now available for Kindle too!
.
A Word to Parents, Foster Parents and Grandparents
The Issue:
You like giving books as gifts, but you want to give a book that is fun and useful. You need a book for a dad, a mom, a teenage mom, a friend, or someone who just works with kids.
The Solution:
Santa's Take on Parenting reads like a novel, is good for both moms and dads, has dozens of parenting tips, and is fun to read.
The Issue:
You know someone who could use some fresh ideas for dealing with their kids. But you don't want to be intrusive or raise resistance.The Solution:
Santa's Take on Parenting is a fun read and it has lots of creative positive ideas without being heavy handed. It can be read as a good story or as a parenting book.
No Particular Issue, you're just interested in parenting and want to read a good book.
The Solution: Santa's Take on Parenting
.
Use this special link, and 20% of every dollar will be donated directly to needy shelters for people (and pets too!).
