Meditation for Crunch Time

If you are upset all the time, there is something wrong with you.

Strong emotions interfere with your ability to relate to others properly. Strong emotions set up another round of negative thinking. They even interfere with your ability to drive safely.

If you push down and suppress upset, it still stresses delicate organs and blood vessels, and then it may suddenly erupt just as bad or even worse.

Unless you learn to handle each moment properly, without upset, your life will continue to deteriorate as each new situation wrongly met increases stress, harms your relationships, and leads to confusion and despair.

What you need right now is not more facts and knowledge about your issues. What you need is understanding, just a little, and you need a way to mentally stand back and observe new situations without another round of upset.

The proper meditation, such as my Easy Meditation, is a little tool to help you find this objectivity.

When you are not adding new upset, you will meet the moment with some dignity, and you will be able to face the next situation with more calmness and pose. This composure grows with each moment well met.

Then you will also be able to also face the memories of past traumas and upset and observe them without becoming upset again. This is important.

In the past, you did not know how to face unhappy memories and emotions from the past without becoming upset all over again.

But now with objectivity, you will be able to observe past memories without adding new upset, and you will also be given understanding about what happened. This leads to a resolution of the memory and to being set free from it.

In the past, upset after upset, anger after anger led to a snowballing effect where you become immersed in and even overwhelmed by negativity.

Now the opposite will occur. With each success--meeting a moment where you remain calm instead of angry or impatient--you grow in character and courage, prepared to face bigger and bigger challenges.

The proper meditation, such as my Easy Meditation, is just a little tool to help you find objectivity so yu can begin to face life with this new positive approach.

Many of us can be reasonable and calm when faced with situations at work. This is because you are more neutral and professional at work.  Your attitude of friendly neutrality prepares you in advance to meet new work situations with calmness and reason. When a customer brings an issue, you don't take it personally; instead you do what is right and have a problem solving approach.

But look what happens at home. There you become angry and resentful toward your partner, impatient with your kids, and upset and irritated at your neighbor.

What you need is the same calm, friendly detachment at home that you have (or should have) at work.

The meditation exercise pre-arms you in advance with objectivity--a little bit of mental distance with a friendly problem solving orientation.  Proper practice of the meditation exercise prevents the build up and accumulation of upset, permitting you to remain calm and to say or do the right thing.

Most people are so reactive that accumulating upset and irritation messes up their home life and then spreads to everything.

In public we hide our upset, but the suppressed emotion leads to physical symptoms--which also upset us! Wouldn't it be better to learn how not to get upset in the first place?

The meditation exercise is designed to help you get started on your road to poise, self control, and better relationships.

Distractions, Prayer and Brain Fog

Psalm 145:18 throws a great deal of light on the question of how to pray: "The Lord is near to all them that call upon Him, to all that call upon Him in truth." That little expression "in truth" is worthy of study. If you will take your concordance and go through the Bible, you will find that this expression means "in reality," "in sincerity." The prayer that God answers is the prayer that is real, the prayer that asks for something that is sincerely desired. 

 The above reading is from the classic How to Pray by Reuben A. Torrey, published in 1900. 

 At one point, Christ said something like "The Father desires worshipers such as these who worship God in spirit and in truth." It is hard to pray when you are ill with a fever, for example. You are lost in delirium and cannot focus properly. Similarly, it is hard to pray when we are lost in our distractions. 

Many times when I am at Starbucks or at the library to go online I see someone who comes in to study. He or she pulls out a textbook or notebook and begins to study, but after about 5 minutes, s/he inevitably reaches for the iPhone.

It is for this reason that I recommend beginning with the meditation available here. Most of us are lost in a semi stupor or trance state. We don't know that we are but the evidence of it is that everything pulls on your attention, you have difficulty focusing on things and even more importantly, you are lost in thinking. daydreaming, and the thought stream much of the time.

If you cannot study or focus properly, constantly reacting for your iPhone to check text messages or constantly lost in your music or video games, how are you going to pray properly?

Moreover, there is a residual effect that lingers after your texting, music, Internet or video game indulgence.  It is called mental fog or brain fog.Understand this: texting, video games, excessive Internet use, music addiction, and so on are substitutes for the imagination. When you are not lost in your gadgets, then you are lost in daydreaming.

Thinking about what we just did, or what we plan to do, or about what someone said to us, even if only for less than a minute (though most of us daydream for much longer stretches) is daydreaming
where you are lost in thought and not totally there in reality. 

When lost in thought, we are not fully there. You can drive right past your freeway exit.

But it is in reality, in the aware state, not lost in daydreaming, where you are closer to God.

All of this is to say that when the soul is immersed in the thought stream (or lost in emotional thinking) it is in a state where it cannot pray. But the person who learns to meditate properly is restored to objectivity.

So learning to pray is, as Mr. Torrey properly points out, a matter of asking, of sincerity, and of praying in truth.The person who is not immersed in thinking and feeling, and mentally stands back from the thought stream is subject to God. And it is in this state that the soul is free to pray and free to pray sincerely.

When immersed in the thought stream, you are subject to post hypnotic influence, as well as the powerful imaginings that pull on your awareness. Down there, lost in the Alice in Wonderland world of fantasy and unreality, you are subject to whatever or whoever drove you into the imagination, and to whatever controls your imagination.

But if you can regain the objective state (which you had when you were a little child, before you were upset by the world), then you will be free to pray.

How proper meditation may help

When you begin to meditate properly, you will discover that you will be able to concentrate for the first time. Before you were merely caught up in one thing or another. When your attention was captured by one thing and another you were distracted. When you fixated on one thing for a long time, you thought you were concentrating, but your attention had been captured.

It basically frees you from having to do anything other than to meditate properly to come close to God. Going about your daily activities, you become more spontaneous, no longer feeling compelled or obligated to put on a show for God or anyone else. You have more time to enjoy the closeness to God and to ponder life and learn its meaning. Paul exhorts us to pray unceasingly, and I believe he is referring to the meditative life, where we become objective to thoughts and feelings, closer to the Light, and no longer immersed in daydreams, plans and schemes.

I also believe this is the prized state of mind that Christian mystics such as Madame Guyon, St. John of the Cross, Francois Fenelon, Miguel de Molinos, and Saint Francis de Sales had found. They tried to tell us about it and put it in the verbal coinage of the day. They used words like "prayer or contemplation," but I am sure they were referring to the objective state of awareness, mentally standing back from thought, and there finding communion with God.

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"Why do I get upset all the time" Maybe this prayer meditation will help

Hello, this is Pastor Roland. Want to improve your prayer life?

Having trouble praying?

Worries, doubts and fears getting in the way of your prayers?

I have made a prayer meditation to help people find a closer walk with God.

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I made a prayer meditation app too - for your iPhone, Android or mobile device. And it's free!

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I have found that people get upset too easily. They get upset and then they say or do the wrong thing. Then they fall into thinking - reliving the past or worrying about the future.

For 25 years I have been researching Christian meditation, in order to help people not get upset in the first place and not fall into worries and negative thinking.

I found a meditation that is very simple and easy to learn.

It is short and can be learned in less than 10 minutes. It is great for busy people. It is also great for beginners.

I discovered a remarkable thing. With the help of this prayer meditation, when you have presence of mind and are not upset, it improves your prayer life.

In a nutshell, it is much easier to pray when you are not upset or lost in thought.

It is also much easier to practice patience and kindness, with wisdom, when you are not upset or lost in thinking.  

Read the whole story at the prayer meditation app.

I wish to share this discovery with others and make this simple prayer meditation available for free.

I am extending my hand in friendship. If you wish, try the meditation and if practiced with a sincere intent it may be the first step of a wonderful journey.

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