Send Me Your Prayer To Post So Others can Pray Your Prayer Too

Hello, this is Pastor Roland. I am delighted that so many people are emailing me to pray for them.

I love praying for folks, and all you have to do is click on the prayer tab and I will pray start praying for you right away.

Keep the emails coming.

But now the good news.

I have another new service. 

Now you can send me your prayer

for the nation,
for the world
or for love, peace and social justice
or whatever issue you want people to pray for . 

I will post it on my blog for others to read and pray with you.

The world needs prayer, lots of it. Make your prayer. It does not have to be long or fancy. Just a prayer you are praying and you would like someone to pray with you.

It can be a prayer for the nation or your nation.

For your people.
A prayer for our leaders.

A prayer for the world

A prayer for peace, safety, or love.

A prayer to end racism.

A prayer for seniors or moms and dads everywhere.

You got the idea.  Anything  Just no prayers for individual people, no individual names please.

It will be a  prayer for lots of people.

At the bottom of the prayer you can put your first name or nickname (no last names please)

Click here to send me your prayer. I will post as many as I can. Remember, this is a prayer you are making to pray for many people (like people who are suffering, or a prayer for our leaders)

Here is our first prayer

Dear Pastor Roland,

Please pray that ebola will stop spreading. Please pray for the children of the world that they may be safe and not get sick from it.   Nanelle  

Thank you, Nanelle. I will pray this with you and hope other do too.

Pastor Roland

1 O God, our help in ages past,
our hope for years to come,
our shelter from the stormy blast,
and our eternal home:

2 Beneath the shadow of thy throne
thy saints have dwelt secure;
sufficient is thine arm alone,
and our defense is sure.

3 Before the hills in order stood,
or earth received its frame,
from everlasting thou art God,
to endless years the same.

4 A thousand ages in thy sight
are like an evening gone,
short as the watch that ends the night
before the rising sun.

5 Time, like an ever rolling stream,
bears all our years away;
they fly forgotten, as a dream
dies at the opening day.

6 Our God, our help in ages past,
our hope for years to come,
be thou our guard while life shall last,
and our eternal home.


Pastor Roland

How to Submit a Prayer Request

 From the desk of Pastor Roland.

Hello, this is Pastor Roland. Would you like me to say a prayer for
you? Send me an email using the contact form.

Tell me your first name and what you would like me to pray for.

Tell me your first name or nickname please. And please give me enough detail so I know what I am to pray for.

I will start praying for you right away.

It is that simple. As soon as I get your request I begin to pray for you.

Pastor Roland is the author of 17 books and has been helping people for over 25 years. Submit your prayer request 24/7

Pastor Calls on Ministers, Atheletes, and Coaches to Speak Out Against Child Abuse

"Should parents spank their kids? "

Absolutely not," says Roland Trujillo, pastor, lecturer, and author of 17 books. "It is totally unnecessary."  

"For 25 plus years I have advocated against spanking. What does spanking accomplish? It introduces the child to fear, to trauma, and often to rage. It turns some children into fearful conformists, and others into rebels because of their hatred of the parent who used violence on them. 

Jesus did not spank children.

Dwight L. Moody did not spank his children, choosing love and understanding instead of violence.

Spanking is not Biblical.The few verses from Proverbs that are used over and over again to justify spanking, hitting, beating, slapping, screaming and other acts of overt or subtle bullying are misunderstood and misinterpreted.  Did you know for example that there are several words for child in the Old Testament? Did you know that rod and staff also mean guidance, leadership, direction, and protection? Nor have they taken into account the cultural or legal context of the Old Testament. 

Said one major radio station host: "Spanking didn't deter me from doing bad things. It just made me angry. Spanking taught me to be more careful about covering up and hiding what I was doing." 

Spiritual recovery for the adult child can only occur if he or she is able to let go of the resentment toward the parent. 

Dear adult children who were abused when you were kids: let go of the resentment toward your parents. They did not have understanding. They were doing to you what was done to them.Forgive them and you won't have to pass on the cruelty to your kids.

I am republishing this blog post with the hope that perhaps a mom or a dad somewhere stumbles on this and says--"what I'm doing now is not working. My child and I are growing apart. The more I punish, the more she rebels. Someday my child will hate me, or be trapped into loving me out of guilt for hating me underneath."

I'm hoping that somewhere there is a parent who out of sheer love for their child is willing to think outside the box and say, maybe there is another way. A way that is based in patience and understanding. God help all the little children who are physically hit, verbally abused, rejected, or who are being drugged with psychotropic drugs.

One more thing. Respect is earned. Hitting, yelling, teasing, or rejecting are not respectable. Impatience is not respectable. Anger is not respectable. 

Many parents do unto their kids what what done to them. The spirit of the bully lives on, passed down from one generation to the next, through unaware parents who are acted through by the spirit of violation that got into them when they hated their parents.

 I know what you are going to ask. Did I spank my child? The answer is no. Never. Not once. Did I use time outs. Never. Threats? None. Grounding? Never.

Pastor Roland continues:

Little kids don't need discipline, they need direction and redirection. They need watching with love, kindness, and patience. Older kids need the loving presence of an involved aware parent. They need mentoring, coaching, boundaries, and a parent who sets a good example. 

I just do not buy the Biblical argument for spanking. Here is a good short article on why spanking is not endorsed in the Bible.  The Alliance to Stop the Hitting of Children has lots of links to enlightened organization around the world, a newsletter and much more.

Samuel Martin wrote an outstanding book about the subject of spanking and Biblical references. 
Samuel Martin shows how Old Testament references are misinterpreted by those who wish to justify hurting children. He looks at the meaning of the Hebrew terms, Judaic law at the time, as well as the culture. He clearly shows that the use of violence against children is NOT endorsed, nor can it be justified by Bible texts.

There are some great resource on why not to spank at

the Project NoSpank. 
Alternatives to Spanking
More parenting with patience resources at the U.S. Alliance to Stop the Hitting of Children 

Reading Resources

Thy Rod and Thy Staff, They Comfort Me by Samuel Martin. Free download.

Sparing the Rod - a Torah Perspective on Reward and Punishment in Education

Spare the Child- the Religious Roots of Punishment and the Psychological Impact of PhysicalPunishment  by Philip Greven

For Your Own  Good by Alice Miller

Trauma Through a Child's Eyes by Peter Levine

"I think the angels in Heaven cover their eyes and shudder when a parent hits a little child."  
     a quote from Pastor Roland's lecture on why he is opposed to hitting children.

For parents or counselors who wish to know more about Pastor Roland's Parenting with Patience approach, here are 3 of his books:

 Written in the tradition of Le Petit Prince and Jonathan Livingston Seagull, this beautiful little book can be read as a heart warming story; but like Le Petit Prince, it also is filled with profound insights and meaning. Santa's Take on Parenting can be read over and over, and it makes a great gift.

  • Shadow Santa and Mrs. Claus as they demonstrate their skills in gently but firmly guiding two kids who are visiting with them.

  • Find out the secrets to their success.

  • Discover what Santa's skills are and why they work.

  • Let Santa and Mrs. Claus be your mentors!

Incidentally, just as parenting is a year round job, so is learning and developing your parenting skills! Don't wait until the holidays.

Now at Barnes and Noble Nookbook. In color!


"Roland, thank you so much for your book. 
When I heard that you are a pastor, I hesitated to order it because I'm not into religion.  But because I wanted to learn more about why I can't stop resenting my husband so much, I went ahead and got the book. I'm so glad that I did. The advice is very practical, and the book is filled with some beautiful spirituality too. I spent over a thousand dollars to register and fly to an out of town seminar  I could have saved the thousand and got your book instead."  Suzy - San Bernardino  

"The perfect book for troubled couples with different type of problems   .  .   .
 I can assure it will be one of the better books I have ever read."    review of The Myths and Mysteries of Marriage 

Why do couples argue?
How can we put the sparkle back in our marriage?
How can we communicate better?
I’m a Christian but my boyfriend is not.
What is the difference between courtship and casual dating?
My wife asked me to leave.
Why are men the way we are?
What does my wife want?
Can we reconcile?
My wife cheated on me –now what?

Based on over 20 years of counseling couples and answering questions on the radio. Roland tackles the tough questions with humor, discernment, and refreshing honesty. From the Garden of Eden to the 21st century, he’s got relationships covered. 

Click here to preview the paperback edition at

About the Author

Roland Trujillo, lecturer and author, introduces his new comprehensive look at the delights, the challenges and the mysteries of marriage. For over 20 years, Roland has been helping couples repair their relationships and move forward to optimal living. Roland is now bringing his insights, based in compassion and spiritual principles, to a new level in this unique look at the perils, pitfalls, and promises of relationships.

Look inside the eBook in Kindle at

Here are just some of the topics discussed

The Dating and Mating Game Is Not a Game
“A Rose by Any Other Name is Still a Rose”
Why I Decided to Become a Pastor
Where to Find Real Solutions to your Relationship Woes
Why Couples Argue
Myths of Marriage

How to Forgive and Forget
How to Apologize and Clear the Air with Dignity
Just How Important is Dad?
Marriage Counseling for Men
Can I Reconcile with My Husband, Wife, or Child?
Is Food Your Secret Lover and Enabler?
Dealing with Hard Times
Adam and Eve: The First Dysfunctional Family
My Husband is Annoying
My Wife Asked Me to Move Out –What Should I
Advice to Divorced Moms
My Wife Cheated on Me – Now What?
Finding the Best Marriage Advice

The Strong Family—Ten Lessons in Faithfulness

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Now available in Kindle!

Putting the Forever Back in Love - Advanced Concepts in Relationship Building

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This book contains advanced concepts for coping with and resolving difficult relationship issues.

Been married for many years and have some issues? This is the book for you.

Over 100 pages are devoted to parent and child issues.

Based in 24 years of research and counseling, Dr. Trujillo presents new insights and strategies for healing relationships and resolving stress and unhappiness. Partners, parents, couples considering marriage, and adult children of dysfunctional families will find both practical and spiritual principles to help them move forward to happiness.

Got a budget? For a donation of any amount  I will send you this 315 page book in pdf. attached to an email as a token of my appreciation.