Drugs - How to Become Drug Free

Drugs are a big problem nowadays. There are reasons why people start taking something in the first place - often to relieve pain or boredom, sometimes to go along with everyone else, sometimes just to experiment. Perhaps to rebel against clueless or hypocritical parents.

But once someone gets started, they tend to get sucked into a downward spiral. From a little to more to a lot. From so called lighter things to heavier ones. From occasionally to frequently.

But even for those who don't get into heavy use, there is still the issue of why anyone would want to take a drug in the first place. You don't see dogs and cats taking drugs. They are happy to just be. But you see people taking drugs and doing all manner of weird things.

Why can't people just be happy to be?

Little children don't need to take anything weird to keep them happy. A child can spend the day exploring the backyard, gathering pretty rocks or drawing with paper and crayons. They don't need a lot of toys - just the presence of a calm and loving parent.

So what goes wrong? The problem is separation from God - which, in fact, is the basis of all our issues. Many of us have known about God or have heard words about God, but we have never really known God. Bear in mind that there are also people who claim to know God, but really don't. And their hypocrisy or dishonesty is confusing and painful to others who might have gently come to understanding if they had not been turned off by those who masquerade as Christians.

The other thing is that for most of us, our problems begin when we were kids. Our parents did not have understanding. At best, they did the best they could, but something was missing. Dad was not there emotionally for the child. The parents may have had issues; perhaps there was a divorce. All too often there was cruelty - emotional or physical abuse. Mostly there is just a lack of understanding.

There is also neglect - father was not there for you, kids are abandoned to strangers, perhaps strangers are allowed into the home, or there is a lack of supervision and awful things happen. At school, there are bullies, there is peer pressure. Teachers are, after all strangers, and without the presence of a calm and loving parent, there is chaos, confusion, cruelty, and a loveless world without proper boundaries.

There is, in other words, trauma. The trauma of overt or subtle abuse, and the trauma of no one that stands in contrast to the shallow confusion all around. A father's job is to stand in for God in the eyes of the child. Father is supposed to be stronger than the world. He is there for the child. He has overcome or is in the process of overcoming his own issues. He is mature, brave, kind, wise, with endless patience and understanding.

Most fathers fail their family. Little children are not ready to relate directly to God. Kids relate to and naturally look to parents, especially father, for the kind of understanding and validation that would keep them whole and safe and secure, so they could flower to become why they were meant to be. Instead they are forced to turn to peers, teachers, the popular culture, and imaginary friends for support and security. It is a lonely and frightening world where they must cling to their peers and look for something to comfort themselves.

But now, remember that I said that all our problems are caused by a separation from God. So what is it that keeps a person separated from the healing Source? Why could not a person simply find God and then having found their Parent Spirit, feel secure, loved, and then quickly or slowly recover from their afflictions?

The problem is resentment. What keeps us from God is resentment. Resentment sustains anger; resentment sustains the traumatic memories; and resentment feeds, reinforces and sustains the aberrant traumatic self. The self that we became - the angry, fearful, vicious, passive/aggressive, doubting and confusing thing that we became is sustained by resentment. Resentment reinforces everything that is wrong with you. Resentment is itself a post traumatic trauma. Resentment is damaging to the soul. That is why you must forgive others - drop your resentments, in other words - forgiving everyone beginning with your poor unloved mother and your failing father.

Of course, resentment does not always manifest itself as resentment. It hides under judgment. An angry wife--whose husband is gambling, drugging, or abusive--can feel very self righteous indeed in comparison to her rotten husband. She may not see her resentment - she is so fixated on her husband's wrong that she does not see her own wrong. All she knows about herself is that she is "unhappy" and she has mental, health, or physical issues.

A drug addict may not be a terrible person. He or she is a victim of the dysfunctional home and a loveless society. Mostly people who take drugs or excessive alcohol are angry underneath. In fact, they are full of rage. In one way or another, drugs, cutting, food issues, and a host of other behaviors are a person's way of trying to cope with the pain and manage their emotions.

The answer by now must be obvious. Regardless of what your symptoms and issues are right now, the underlying contributing faction that needs to be looked at is resentment.

If you could let the resentment go, you could become unblocked. Perhaps you can see that you are resentful. You can see that others, beginning with your absent dad and your unloved mother, have failed you. Everyone failed you and betrayed you. So you have hated them all.

Perhaps you can see that letting go of resentment is what you need to do. But something is preventing you. For one thing, you are lost in a mental fog. You somehow get through the day, partially lost in everything you do. Your mobile device, your computer, your music, your friends, your meds, your issues keep you occupied and preoccupied. But they also betrayed you. There are no answers there.

You would like to come to the inner Light, to see everything I have been saying, but to see it in the Light of someone who loves you. Someone who knows all about you, but does not judge you or hate you. Someone who understands. And when you realize and sense the loving presence, someone who validates and does not deny what you know in your heart, then you could realize that you are forgiven, are already forgiven, and then it would be easy to forgive others.

What you need is presence of mind - you need to come back to the kind of consciousness you once had,before you were traumatized long ago.

With a bright presence of mind, not lost in your imagination, you could begin to realize solutions in the light. What you need is to meditate. But it has to be a meditation that is inspired by the right source and one that leads you to your Creator, not to just more visualizations or false comfort.

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